Can I let myself be inspired without motivation
Nobody can motivate you: Motivation comes from yourself
“Hardly any other term is used as often in the world of work as“ motivation ”. Unfortunately, there is hardly a term that is used so often incorrectly (...) ”- This is how a text begins with the sounding title“ Dopamine and self-efficacy: two pretty best friends ”, which recently cast a spell on me. Benjamin Jaksch passionately and comprehensibly describes why motivational coaches make his hair stand on end and why our brain can become a motivation killer due to evolution. A topic like this is predestined for the karriere.blog, I think, and ask Benjamin for an interview about goals, strategies and mistakes that cost us motivation.
Benjamin, in your article you write that you cannot be motivated. Then why are there so many motivational coaches?
Benjamin Jaksch: With motivation and the ignorance of the general public about what motivation actually is, a lot of money is currently being made in the "personality development market". You go to mass events where motivational coaches are on stage, and you think that's how you get it Extra push. You get it too, you get energized. People celebrate, clap and laugh, but it doesn't change the basic motivation. Because these are them Motives, the motivationsthat lead me to an act. They may change every now and then in the course of life, but are basically pretty fixed. The better you know about it, the better you understand that you cannot motivate others. Instead of educating people about it, you enrich yourself with their ignorance and I think that's wrong.
What is important to me Motivation comes from within
So motivation literally comes from motive?
Benjamin Jaksch: Yes, if you look that up, you will also find this definition: The totality of all motives, that's motivation. To find them, it is not enough to look at motivational quotes over and over again. It gives you a good feeling and that is also very important. However, it does not fundamentally change anything.
So how do you manage to motivate yourself?
Benjamin Jaksch: Let's say I want to learn a language. If I now have the choice - and I have it very often - to learn a bit more Spanish after work or to go to the lake, then a mental discussion begins: What are the reasons for what? It's the same with learning Spanish, losing weight, doing sports or when I want to quit smoking. This discussion begins with every goal I set for myself. The head says: Yes, you want to learn Spanish, but you also want to watch the latest season of Game of Thrones and that's really important to you right now. Then afterwards I'll be pretty safe on the couch and watch Game of Thrones instead of learning Spanish. Because there are more reasons for it at the moment. If I want to achieve the things that are important to me, I have to create situations that make it easier for me. I can also learn Spanish at the lake, for example. The best thing to do is to try to find a way to combine the two. And then it is always a question of reasonable goal setting.
SMART and WOOP: helpful motivational strategies
What strategy can you use for this?
Benjamin Jaksch: The question is, how can I formulate a personal goal in a way that makes it easier for me to choose it? It is also a matter of willpower. It wears out during the day, but you can train it and recharge it. When I understand that, I will begin to achieve my goals - and without this “Tschakka” mentality.
I recommend two methods very much. On the one hand, there are the so-called SMART-Aims. With this I formulate goals in such a way that they specific, measurable, attractive, realistic and timed, in other words: provided with a duration or deadline. The attractiveness in particular is very important, because it is about my personal relationship to the goal, i.e. why you want to achieve it. Another method that I love to use comes from the Willpower research and is called WOOP method. Incidentally, the information material can be downloaded completely free of charge. WOOP stands for: Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan. One works with "mental contrasting", that is If-then plans. If this and that gets in my way, what do I do? It works very well, which is why I always recommend these two methods when it comes to achieving personal goals. But it is also important to give yourself time. We are always more eager to get a praise or a like for something we do. This applies above all to millennials and Generation Z. And we have to learn more again patience because some things take time and are not immediately rewarded.
Unmotivated at work: It's not always up to the employer
A lack of recognition often leads to demotivation in the job. Can I do something about it if I am often not motivated at work?
Benjamin Jaksch: First, I have to find out what motivates me: which Situations, Which Environments, what kind of job? And if my employer gives me the opportunity to change my role, which is currently demotivating for me, so that I might take on other activities or work in other teams, then I can find motivation again. If that is not possible, then the organization in which I work may be active demotivating is. Because she doesn't even know what causes demotivation in the company.
What would be classic mistakes made by employers that lead to demotivation?
Benjamin Jaksch: The work of employees does not to appreciate. Letting you do tasks that ultimately just end up in the drawer is, for example, very bad for motivation at work. It also leads to great dissatisfaction when the employer doesn't authentic is. If I don't implement what I stand for on paper as an employer. Or when I am my co-workers freedom of choice admit, but ultimately, as a manager, they do it again and again overrule. According to the motto: "You can decide everything yourself, but if I don't like it, we'll do it the way I want it."
If the motivation is so completely absent, when do you think it would be time to change jobs?
Benjamin Jaksch: Well, if I know exactly what motivates me and I don't see any possibility of how that can be reconciled with my current employer, then one conclusion can be that one will change employers. However, I believe that most people will don't know what motivates them. Because we live very unconsciously. We very often ignore many emotional signals and distract us with various means, and do not even realize how we are really doing. That is why it is necessary to first recognize what it looks like inside me and what I need. Otherwise it could be that I change job after job and after six different employers still dissatisfied am Then I have to wonder if maybe I'm all in the wrong direction.
"If I am still dissatisfied after six different employers, I have to ask myself whether we are heading in the right direction."
That was the case for me when I left electrical engineering and product management. Back then, after school, I studied something that I knew was a good way to make money, the industry is strong there and I can somehow. But that had nothing to do with what I really want - according to the New Work definition. Only over the years have I allowed myself to rediscover it. And then I went into self-employment because I couldn't find a job where I what i want to do, can do too. I also like to emphasize that: I am not self-employed to be self-employed, but because I believe that I do not need a company for what I do at the moment. If that should change, I'll be happy to be employed again.
Trying out consciously and saying no: How to find your own motives
Do you have a guide for people who don't know what they want, what their motives are?
Benjamin Jaksch: Once it is a lot of trial and error. Not because others do it, but because it is feels just right to me. We do so many things just because others do or because others say we should do it. It starts with fashion or sports trends. And the difference to notice what feels good to me and where I don't feel anything is important. Here you have to consciously try things out and have the courage to Not to go along with thingseven if they think others are right. Even if others say: I don't like that or that's not good.
"You don't have to go to Thailand for a year to find yourself."
Otherwise you should be inspired everywhere and maybe also travel - but with caution: You don't have to go to Thailand for a year to find yourself. Many people make the mistake of using the false expectation approach the matter. The same thing can also work if I go to Carinthia for a week. Again, the following applies: What are the reasons for doing this? And what do I need for that? When I was thinking of leaving my old job, I spent three days climbing in France and thought to myself, this is sure to be the enlightenment. All I really needed to make the decision was a chat with friends. In the course of the conversation a friend said to me: “You have already made up your mind, you just have to realize it.” And that's why you have to make your own Consciously perceiving emotions, otherwise you won't even notice that you're actually already know what you want.
About Benjamin Jaksch
As a “learning enthusiast”, Benjamin Jaksch has been concerned with how people can best learn and solve problems for almost twenty years. In lectures and workshops, he helps people in organizations to learn more efficiently and thus actively shape their role in the working world of the future.
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